Not Just "Rigid"

 To Dilate or Not to Dilate ? That's the Question A popular approach when it comes to managing vaginismus is using dilators, yet so many people are intimidated by it, which is understanble given how little we are educated about them, or how to properly utilise them without feeling ashamed or fearful. Vaginal dilation refers to the utilisation of tubelike devices made of either medical-grade silicon or plastic, that help strech out the vaginal tissue in order to relax them, once inserted inside the vagina. In addition to that, dilators tend to come in a set, where the size gradually increases, starting from the first that is comparable to a pinky finger, to the last that resembles the size of a penis, in order for the body to get slowly get accustomed to penetration, as for some the process might be rather quick going from one size dilator to another, whereas others just need a little more time, both physically and psychologically. With that being said, other than the fact that they...

  Shame: A Primary Emotion  When speaking of vaginismus, shame is an emotion that you will always find hiding somewhere in the topic, wether you are or not conscious of it. Even though vaginsimus is formed from the percieved pain you may possess in regards to sex, gynocological examinations, or tampon insertions, a lot of times, especially in religious households, vaginismus can mainly be formed due to the shame we women feel when it comes to the idea of sex, wether it is participating in the activity, or just simply thinking of it.  Being raised in a religious or traditional household has a severe impact on the way we not only view, but also comprehend sex and its meaning. Those who grew up being told that sex is something natural that is normal to desire are less likely to develop vaginismus, as they were taught from a young age that there is nothing to fear or feel ashamed of. On the contrary, those who grew up in a religous or more restrictive household are usually ta...